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Sexual Abusers and Abusive Sexuality (7e)

January 23, 2018

To help women combat this scourge of patriarchal culture, with its mythologically divine roots, a basic thing for men to do is to combat the prejudice and discrimination that compose cultural sexism. This is very important, because sexism (what’s that?) is the basis of abusive sexuality. The more we eliminate sexism, the less we’ll experience sexual abuse.

We can be on the look out for prejudiced thoughts and feelings of our own, and work to nullify them sufficiently to keep them from motivating discriminatory acts on our part. (Don’t worry too much about completely eliminating these pernicious subjective phenomena—and don’t waste time feeling guilty about them, don’t get hung-up inside yourself; just make enough progress to render them sufficiently harmless, to others and thereby to yourself.) And we can recognize potential or present discrimination in our own actions and circumstances.

Even more urgent: in our circumstances, from intimate to societal, we can work to prevent discrimination, on our own part and by others. By doing so, btw, we can modify the pervasive patterns of thought and feeling, thus reducing prejudice in ourselves and others—e.g. laws do change hearts, by changing circumstances, experiences, patterns of thought and feeling, and perspective, including healthier imaginations of the possible good.

These inner and outer unhealthy dynamics work in sexuality the same as in the artificial and inaccurate perceptions in racism and classism. I was thinking about the dynamics of racism, on three earlier pages, so I’ll just link to those (“What Is Prejudice?” / “Prejudice:  What can be done” / “What About Discrimination?”), instead of going into the details here.

In all, the good news is that we don’t have to put up with this shit. So let’s don’t.

[Page (7d). Page (1) of this episode.]

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